Most Georgia residents know an ugly divorce when they see one. Although
this kind of deteriorating relationship is not surprising given the high
emotions that come out during divorce, it almost always has a negative
effect on children. Unfortunately, such conflict often continues even
after parents settle on child custody.
As one of the most contentious and emotionally challenging parts of the
divorce process, child custody identifies each parent's responsibilities
and rights after the marriage has ended. Fortunately, more and more parents
are choosing co-parenting or joint custody with their children's interests
in mind, something courts have sought to do for decades.
Co-parenting actually helps a child adjust to the changes that follow from
divorce, especially when parents learn to set aside resentment and anger
and work to get along with each other for the sake of the child. There
are three principal ways to do that.
First, honor any agreements about visitation you make. It shows respect
for your ex and for yourself and gives your kids a good example of someone
acting responsibly, which is something you probably want for your children.
Second, cut your ex some slack. Assume first that his or her motives are
honorable even if you don't see that right away.
Third, when it comes to resolving the hardest issues with your former spouse,
look for a solution that will have the best possible impact on your kids.
That solution often actually becomes a win-win for both of you, something
your children also will come to respect and hopefully embrace in their
Even though co-parenting can benefit a child, the process is rarely without
some conflict. Parents who work at co-parenting usually come to see the
value in setting aside their relatively insignificant personal issues
in order to help their children find happiness.